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You know it’s a dream but you couldn’t get up

// February 27th, 2010 // nightmares, personal

Once I was laying in my bed, I saw a middle aged Chinese woman and his son sitting on my bed. They were watching me asleep.

They didn’t say anything. They looked like they’re human, but the way they looked at me made me realize that there was something not right with them. Their eyes looked dead.

… and what the hell they’re doing in my bedroom?

Even though they didn’t do anything at all, they still scared the hell out of me. I tried to get up, but I couldn’t.

After a minute of torture, I finally got up and realized that it was only a dream. Only that’s the most ‘real’ dream I’ve ever had.

I don’t remember how long after that, but they were back again in my dream. Like before, I couldn’t get up and couldn’t move. For some reason, even though they were sitting still on my bed, I could swear that they were getting closer and closer to me.

Again, it was a struggle to get up, I sometimes made it and usually I was too afraid to fall asleep again. Because the minute I fell asleep, they would be back again.

I didn’t believe in Ghost and such and I know it’s only a dream, but why it kept coming back? And why that woman and her son? Who were they?

This thing happened around 2003. At that time I lived in Jakarta, working as journalist and it’s probably the busiest and the most stressful time in my life ever.

The nightmare continues. Soon, I started to see appearance by people that I knew in real life.

While I was in Jakarta, I had a roommate. Every few days, there was a woman came by to pick up our laundry. Usually she came while we’re still asleep.

And that day, I heard her coming while I was still lying in my bed. Then I felt some “strange” air flowing inside my brain and now my body was “paralyzed” again (Once, you experienced that kind of nightmare in a while, you start to recognize the symptom when it was about to come).

So, I said to myself: “Oh no, what’s scary stuff that I am going to experience this time?”

My eyes were opened (at least that’s seemed like it). I felt her entering the room only that I didn’t see her at all. Then, I saw her right hand waving and touching the wall in a scary way (which I didn’t know how to explain). There was nothing I could do, but to wait until I get my power back to get up from this nightmare

At that time, the dream only set in that same room. Until not longer after that, I had a dream where I ‘woke up’, though still lying in bed. I saw the room around me has changed. It looked like the room in my grandparent’s house.

Then, I saw my cousin at least it looked like her but it wasn’t her because she had that empty, dead, evil look in her eyes, like that Chinese woman and her son.

There were times, my roommate was there with me, sleeping at the same room with me. I felt like there was a long haired ghost (like in The Ring), holding me so tight and made me couldn’t move. I tried to reach at my roommate so I could wake her up, but the ghost were stronger than I did.

I knew that my “experience” is getting scarier and scarier.

I finally told some people about it. They reaction is the room we stayed must be haunted or whatever. I don’t want to believe that, but the other explanation that I MUST be getting crazy then. I like the “haunted” explanation better. Of course, it becomes sort of like jokes then. I was laughing too. Although at the end, I still terrified every time it occurred.

Basically, the experiences were always similar where I couldn’t get up or move. There were times it was too scary that I managed to crawl on the floor, trying to go to the bathroom so I could pour a cold water into my face.

There were times I actually set my alarm to go off every few min, so I could get up when it rings and the “ghost” or whatever would go away.

My last effort was to change the direction of the bed. I heard the myth said you shouldn’t sleep facing the door because then you’ll have nightmare (don’t ask me why, I don’t have the answer). At that time, my common sense doesn’t really help me and I just want to have a peaceful night, so I did change the direction. I forgot if that really worked.

When I moved to US. It started to happen again. Sometimes I woke up and saw my neighbor sitting on my bed and again looking at me with “empty” eyes. There were times I heard my husband footsteps, but he never made it to the door. That’s how I knew that it’s the “nightmare” again.

Onetime, I found the article on something called “Sleep paralysis”. I was shocked to find out and relieved at the same time that I finally found the answer of what has been happening to me in the last few years.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sleep_paralysis

This is the various factors that might increase it:

Sleeping in a face upwards or supine position
Irregular sleeping schedules; naps, sleeping in, sleep deprivation
Increased stress
Sudden environmental/lifestyle changes
A lucid dream that immediately precedes the episode.

All the factors seemed to describe my situation really well. The first thing I changed was my sleeping position habit. I remember not to sleep on my back anymore, always facing side, left or right. It seemed worked and I hardly have that experience anymore.

More interesting link (and story) about “Sleep Paralysis”

http://www.lucid.me/sleepparalysis.htm

http://www.yourghoststories.com/real-ghost-story.php?story=8590

http://www.theastralworld.com/dreams/sleep-paralysis.php

http://serendip.brynmawr.edu/exchange/node/1740?page=4&destination=